Being emotionally present is key to a loving connection with a partner. But past neglect makes some people afraid to express their feelings, resulting in cold, insecure, resentful relationships.Loving Like You Mean It is a guided self-help approach to overcoming fear of relationships enabling readers to experience a deeper level of emotional intimacy. Using tools drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Frederick shares his extensive case studies of patients who found themselves increasingly frustrated, lonely, and unaware of their dysfunctional interpersonal patterns. When people express their feelings in a manner that inspires their partners to engage, it draws them together, increases their sense of safety, security, and trust, and strengthens their connection. Ultimately, what the reader will take away from this book is the knowledge that, with the right tools, real change can and does happen. Our relationships can be fuller and richer than we ever imagined. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, just waiting to come out.